July 24, 2007

happy birthday ruby!!

Happy Birthday Ruby!!

Our little girl turns one year old today. I feel like I have known her forever. I look back and realize how incomplete my life was before she graced us with her presence. This last year I have learned so much about myself. I have learned patience and compassion for a child who doesn't speak my language and for a husband who sometimes feels like an outsider to the bond Ruby and I have and for myself because I have overcome so much physically and emotionally and still have the ability to make my daughter laugh. She is the greatest gift I have ever gotten. She is the greatest teacher I will ever have.


This time last year I was getting ready for surgery to have her extracted from my womb. I had a scheduled c-section exactly 40 weeks from the day we conceived her. A good friend of mine reminded me that if we had been in a third world country that Ruby and I both may have died during childbirth because she was not only breach but very large. Without modern medicine it is quite possible that I may not have been able to pass her. So how insanely grateful I am that we have those luxuries here in America. I am no less a mother because my vagina wasn't engaged during childbirth. I have known many women who have had c-sections and I always felt sorry for them - somehow they had missed out on a rite of passage. I realize now how silly that is. Being a mother at all, be it by vagina, surgery, or adoption is truly the greatest rite of passage. I hope for Ruby that she will one day know this feeling of being a mother and having this incommunicable love for another being.

Okay so now for her stats...

  • Unassisted steps taken - 0
  • Seconds standing unassisted - 1
  • Drawers/Cabinets opened & emptied on a daily basis - 7
  • Daily naps - 2
  • Average daily hours of sleep - 12-14
  • Words - ba ba (bye bye), ki ka (kitty cat), maow (meow), ma ma ma ma ma (mommy), pa (daddy), ga (all gone)
  • Sign language - milk, bath, eat, change diaper, nap, all gone, hello/good-bye
  • Body parts she knows & can point to - toes, belly button, ears, tongue
  • Teeth - 7
  • Favorite book to read alone - The Cat in the Hat
  • Favorite book to read to her - My Pretty Kitten (at least that was her favorite yesterday)
  • Favorite Lovey - Rattone the Rat
  • Favorite Pastimes - Chasing the cat & playing in the bathroom
  • Favorite Food - Bananas
I think that pretty much solidifies what a totally normal and exceptional child she is. I am honored that she chose me to be her mom. I love you Ruby. You are my shining star!

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

Yeah! We made the first year without seriously damaging the goods! Who would of thought? Thanks for allowing me to walk through this journey with you. I can't wait for all the years to come.

rachel said...

heather, this is fantastic, gracious and wise reflection as a mommy. i love reading your sense of discovery and expression.

rachel said...

ps..the pictures are awesome!

oh, and, bygod you are such a LOVER!